Takeaway points:

1. Try to use "I" not "You" and talk about your own thoughts and feelings.

2. Actively listen: hear what is being said by the other person before you respond to them.

3. Acknowledge the other person's point of view. You don't have to agree with them, but make it clear that you have heard them.

4. Choose a lawyer who can argue positively on your behalf and can help you to change your dynamic with your partner. Your lawyer can use their skills and their role to help you achieve the changes you want.

5. Thinking about or imagining your future during relationship difficulties can be hard. Try to focus on what you want to achieve, what you want to happen next, or what you want to happen differently and be really clear about this when you're talking to your partner.


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